Some people are positive and some people are negative.
I have learnt that it is best not to defend your position.
I get many artists who believe I am wrong with what I say and come to me to argue and tell me how wrong I am and want me to defend my position.
It is like you artist when you are at a show and someone says to you, “ My 5 year old grand daughter could that.” there is no way or even any reason to defend against such stupidity.
Some unthinking person says, “ you are trying to sell that, its a terrible painting?” Again you cannot defend against such ignorance, best to smile and say nothing.
So how do I deal with this?
Ignore it or if you cannot do that then think of it this way.
As I said I have my critics and haters and if I allowed them it could hurt me I would never write again, but for ever critic I have so many really wonderful people who say nice things and thank me for my help.
I have learned to listen to the nice people and ignore the critics, because I realize this and I hope it helps.
Some people are critics and say mean things?
Why? Because they are the critics and mean sayers, its what they do, that is why we call them critical and mean people because that's who they are, you will not change them by arguing.
Some people say stupid and hurtful things?
Why? Because they are the stupid and hurtful sayers, that's what they do and that's why we call them stupid and hurtful, its who they are, you will not change them by arguing.
But the majority of people are nice and we need to focus on the nice people who are the majority and not on the negative people who are always going to be negative because that's who they are.
I get many artists who believe I am wrong with what I say and come to me to argue and tell me how wrong I am and want me to defend my position.
It is like you artist when you are at a show and someone says to you, “ My 5 year old grand daughter could that.” there is no way or even any reason to defend against such stupidity.
Some unthinking person says, “ you are trying to sell that, its a terrible painting?” Again you cannot defend against such ignorance, best to smile and say nothing.
So how do I deal with this?
Ignore it or if you cannot do that then think of it this way.
As I said I have my critics and haters and if I allowed them it could hurt me I would never write again, but for ever critic I have so many really wonderful people who say nice things and thank me for my help.
I have learned to listen to the nice people and ignore the critics, because I realize this and I hope it helps.
Some people are critics and say mean things?
Why? Because they are the critics and mean sayers, its what they do, that is why we call them critical and mean people because that's who they are, you will not change them by arguing.
Some people say stupid and hurtful things?
Why? Because they are the stupid and hurtful sayers, that's what they do and that's why we call them stupid and hurtful, its who they are, you will not change them by arguing.
But the majority of people are nice and we need to focus on the nice people who are the majority and not on the negative people who are always going to be negative because that's who they are.
In a certain book it says, “ A soft answer turns away anger.”
The next time you come across one of these critics, thank them for comparing your work to their grandchild, for I am sure they always tell the child how talented they are?
Thank the person who tells you your work is terrible, just say you appreciate their input and their point of view.
Dismiss them with a complement and forget what they said and hear what the nice and positive people say.
Don't let one negative comment from some uncaring person ruin your day, hear the positive and rejoice with the positive.
Some people are positive and some people are negative, there is no other way to explain it, its who they are.
I hope you have a wonderful uplifting day.
The next time you come across one of these critics, thank them for comparing your work to their grandchild, for I am sure they always tell the child how talented they are?
Thank the person who tells you your work is terrible, just say you appreciate their input and their point of view.
Dismiss them with a complement and forget what they said and hear what the nice and positive people say.
Don't let one negative comment from some uncaring person ruin your day, hear the positive and rejoice with the positive.
Some people are positive and some people are negative, there is no other way to explain it, its who they are.
I hope you have a wonderful uplifting day.
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